Communication Part Trois

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Hello Dual Mom
If you get a chance tonight, call the house after the interview. We are quite interested to hear what she has to say this time as I am sure it will not be great. If you can not, send me an email tomorrow. I wish there was some way we could get to the bottom of it. He just reminds me of a child with Attention Deficit Disorder. He has no attention span at all. One minute he wants something and then he forgets all about it. He bullies the other 2 quite a bit. I also noticed that when he is learning, one minute he is great and then he forgets it all. These are all the signs. It does run in the family as xxx had it when he was younger. Poor (Ex's aunt) had to make 5 trips to different Doctors before she had him diagnosed. Every one of them said there was nothing wrong. Finally, the last one diagnosed him and gave him medicine and he graduated with honors.Imagine that! I know he struggles and I really think there is a reason behind it all. He can learn when he wants to. Have you ever noticed him talk about History, he absolutely loves it.

Then again, it could be a lot of things that is the cause of it. I could understand his home life bothering him when he was younger. It must have been very hard for him to have his parents splitting up like that and then a new girl shows up and R too. But, that should not be an issue now. He has a pretty good life from what I can see. He has the best of both worlds!
I will be going home very shortly . If you do happen to call the house tonight and you are talking to Ex, send me an email tomorrow anyway. Sometimes poor Ex doesn't repeat the story as he should. I would rather hear it from you LOL.
Talk soon

This whole email made me lose my shit. And I cannot determine whether that's what she intended or if she's just insensitive. First off, Monty does not have ADD. Though SWSNBN would like everyone to think otherwise, she is by no means an expert on ADD and has been around ONE child in her life who has been diagnosed as ADD. I do not believe in medicating children because they are too damn lazy to do their schoolwork. I fully realize there are parents out there that believe this is the best thing for their child. That is their choice and I do not question it. I do NOT believe it will ever be the best choice for my children. So piss off SWSNBN with your armchair diagnosis.
Second, his home life?????? HIS fucking home life, how dare she talk about his home life when she started having sleepovers with the EX ONE MONTH AFTER I MOVED OUT. Can you tell I'm just a tad bit sensitive about this? What is that shit? Is she making a dig? Is that what it is? Is she trying to say I permanently fucked up my son by leaving a really bad marriage? I get that I could be just really sensitive about this.
This email exchange was 2 years ago (yes I kept it ... I'm a loser). Monty is now in gr11, he hates school, he gets by by the skin of his teeth and does minimal work. My rant on public education is a post for another time. He does not have ADD. The child would rather be playing with an old car than learning about Georgraphy. It is only because he's deathly afraid of his father and I that he's still in school. His father quit school in grade 11 and Monty likes to argue with me that his father has done ok. I argue that I have higher expectations than OK for my son.
So tell me blogger world, am I too sensitive when it comes to this woman?
Wait until I tell you about the time she felt the need to remind me that my daughter's birthday was coming up......


Suburban Correspondent said...
October 25, 2009 at 2:42 PM

If he really hates school that much, you might want to consider letting him study for the GED so he can move on with his life. He sounds like a real hands-on sort of guy who would prefer to be doing something other than sitting in class. He could get a job for a couple of years and then go to college once he has more ambition in that area.

Some boys are just really allergic to school work until they grow up a little and have a specific goal, you know? I really feel for these kids, because I was like that; but school was easy enough for me to skate by without too much work.

Dual Mom said...
October 25, 2009 at 3:11 PM

Sububan - I once wrote a paper on the education "system" for a university course. It is becoming more and more apparent that alot of kids cannot be "systemized"...they simply cannot learn like that. Had I not been so sheltered and naive (read young and stupid) when he started school I would have started homeschooling him after grade 2...he would have thrived with that type of learning/teaching I believe.

Aunt Juicebox said...
October 25, 2009 at 8:50 PM

I don't know what state you live in, but in Ohio, we have a program called Ecot (educational classroom of tomorrow) that is sort of like being homeschooled, but is run through the public school system and is all done on computers. Something like that, where he could choose what time of day to do his school work, at his own pace, may be beneficial for him.

As for the SWSNBN bullcrap, I know exactly how you feel. The Kraken once told me that she was going to have MY daughter put on birth control pills as soon as she started her period. AH HAHAHAHAHA! That did NOT happen. She's 16 and it still hasn't happened. You want to know why? Because I told her to go fuck herself. My daughter is 16 now and I'm still not putting her on birth control pills just to "control her emotions". WTF? Teenagers have emotions, they have raging hormones, they wig out for no reason, c'est la vie. I don't believe in medicating children just to make their parents lives easier. And on top of all that, who's gonna pay for those unnecessary pills? Why ME of course, because they don't pay for anything, but they sure do like to tell me what to do.

TONI B. said...
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TONI B. said...
October 27, 2009 at 7:04 PM

I don't think you're being sensitive. If somebody said my baby had ADD or was more or less calling my baby stupid i'd have a problem with that chick too! My stepmom used to say that about my little brother all the time and it just made me want to push her down a flight of steps! lol I think she just got too comfortable with you in that email... I don't know what's wrong with her...even if she really did think that about him she shoulda kept that ISH to herself! Why would she say that to the a child mother and think you'd be ok with it!?