Showing posts with label education. Show all posts
Showing posts with label education. Show all posts

Not My Child.....

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Do you ponder daily what type of mom you are? Do you agonize over what type of kids you're raising? My children are older, two teens and a tween, so their personalities are quite defined. This article has me confused, because my children don't really fall into any of the three categories. I'm a failure obviously. :)

The teacup term made me chuckle. I work in a College and this word has become prevalent among university and college staff in the past two years. We are seeing this influx of kids who simply can't deal with life. They crack at the first sign of criticism, they sink into depressions when they fail an exam, they have no coping mechanisms. They have lived all of their life in a shelter designed by their parents to prevent them from having to deal with any of lifes ugly realities. While the premise of this might seem as though they are just trying to spare their child....they are not doing them any favors at all. The real world can be an ugly place people. It's frightening to see.

Tyrants are alot of fun also. There's nothing like dealing with the parent of a tyrant. When students apeal academic discipline or probation these appeals end up in my office. I once had a group of five students in the same class who were all given a zero on a paper they had submitted. Why would an instructor do such a thing? Well these five little darlings all passed in the exact same paper, believing the instructor was either on crack or blind and he would not notice the paper was identical. I'll give them credit though, they did change the cover page to include their respective names. The parents of two of these tyrants landed in my office, threatening lawsuits unless something was done to purge the previously pristine reputation of their angel like offspring. Fuck. Open your eyes. Your kid is a lying, lazy ass shit.

Of course, we need not worry about this, because we're all raising perfect children, right? :0)

Communication Part Trois

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Hello Dual Mom
If you get a chance tonight, call the house after the interview. We are quite interested to hear what she has to say this time as I am sure it will not be great. If you can not, send me an email tomorrow. I wish there was some way we could get to the bottom of it. He just reminds me of a child with Attention Deficit Disorder. He has no attention span at all. One minute he wants something and then he forgets all about it. He bullies the other 2 quite a bit. I also noticed that when he is learning, one minute he is great and then he forgets it all. These are all the signs. It does run in the family as xxx had it when he was younger. Poor (Ex's aunt) had to make 5 trips to different Doctors before she had him diagnosed. Every one of them said there was nothing wrong. Finally, the last one diagnosed him and gave him medicine and he graduated with honors.Imagine that! I know he struggles and I really think there is a reason behind it all. He can learn when he wants to. Have you ever noticed him talk about History, he absolutely loves it.

Then again, it could be a lot of things that is the cause of it. I could understand his home life bothering him when he was younger. It must have been very hard for him to have his parents splitting up like that and then a new girl shows up and R too. But, that should not be an issue now. He has a pretty good life from what I can see. He has the best of both worlds!
I will be going home very shortly . If you do happen to call the house tonight and you are talking to Ex, send me an email tomorrow anyway. Sometimes poor Ex doesn't repeat the story as he should. I would rather hear it from you LOL.
Talk soon
SWSNBN

This whole email made me lose my shit. And I cannot determine whether that's what she intended or if she's just insensitive. First off, Monty does not have ADD. Though SWSNBN would like everyone to think otherwise, she is by no means an expert on ADD and has been around ONE child in her life who has been diagnosed as ADD. I do not believe in medicating children because they are too damn lazy to do their schoolwork. I fully realize there are parents out there that believe this is the best thing for their child. That is their choice and I do not question it. I do NOT believe it will ever be the best choice for my children. So piss off SWSNBN with your armchair diagnosis.
Second, his home life?????? HIS fucking home life, how dare she talk about his home life when she started having sleepovers with the EX ONE MONTH AFTER I MOVED OUT. Can you tell I'm just a tad bit sensitive about this? What is that shit? Is she making a dig? Is that what it is? Is she trying to say I permanently fucked up my son by leaving a really bad marriage? I get that I could be just really sensitive about this.
This email exchange was 2 years ago (yes I kept it ... I'm a loser). Monty is now in gr11, he hates school, he gets by by the skin of his teeth and does minimal work. My rant on public education is a post for another time. He does not have ADD. The child would rather be playing with an old car than learning about Georgraphy. It is only because he's deathly afraid of his father and I that he's still in school. His father quit school in grade 11 and Monty likes to argue with me that his father has done ok. I argue that I have higher expectations than OK for my son.
So tell me blogger world, am I too sensitive when it comes to this woman?
Wait until I tell you about the time she felt the need to remind me that my daughter's birthday was coming up......