What Turns You Off?

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You thought I was going to talk about sex, didn't you?

Nope, I'm talking about blogging. I think most bloggers, as in real life, are drawn to various characteristics in a blog. By the same token we're also turned off by certain characteristics.

I was squandering well paid time at work this week taking a much needed break at work and reading some forums at Blog Frog. SITS has a forum and one of the questions on the forum was what would cause you to not read a blog or stop reading a blog you had been reading. There were 96 responses to the question.

In my effort to be dubbed biggest idiot in the world woman of the year - I read the responses with a fair bit of interest.

It appears the most common reason was music on a blog. Yeah me, I don't have music.

Another was long posts. OK, I'm guilty of this one once in awhile, but I try to keep it within a three minute read.

Run on sentences was another reason bloggers will stop reading. Again, I know my grasp of grammar is not perfect but I usually know how to use a comma and a period.

Lots of bling, badges and gadets seemed to be another pet peeve. I'm too lazy to put this stuff on my blog so I'm ok on this one.

A huge no no with ALOT of people- offensive subject matter and foul language.

Fuck. Actually double fuck because I'm guilty of both.

This got me to thinking about why I blog, what I get out of it, what I hope to impart to those that read my mindless blatherings. And it's this - the world is a fucked up, seriously sad place, if you let it be. Just reading the news on a regular basis makes me want to stab most of society.

I have nothing life altering to say most days. I'm not an expert on any topic. I want to make others chuckle just a little bit. If I accomplish that by relaying the fuckedupedness that is my mind and life, or by giving my spin on a subject matter while turning the air blue around me with profanity, then so be it. It's how I roll.

Having said that, I love new readers. I love seeing a new commentor pop up in my email. I realize I'm probably shutting myself off from alot of bloggers with my cussing. Do I want to do that? No, not really. So I've decided to stop using profanity in my blog posts.

Hehe. Who the fuck am I kidding? Asking me to stop cursing would be like asking a man to remember to pick up his socks. It's just not going to goddamn well happen no matter how hard you scream, rant, rave and threaten to throw said socks in the garbage.

So tell me, is your blog the real you?


blueviolet said...
May 5, 2010 at 6:23 AM

I blog like I talk, so yep, my blog is the real me. I don't think I could do it any other way!

Corinne said...
May 5, 2010 at 6:56 AM

Yeah it is, I don;t really care if no-one reads (though it's nice if they do).
My blog changes from frothy & light to deep & meaningful it's however I feel on the day.

I don't try to appeal to an audience

Anonymous said...
May 5, 2010 at 7:19 AM

Fuck. Cussing is a no no? Shit.

Yeah. My blog is the real me. That's why is't anonymous.

Kelly Wolfe said...
May 5, 2010 at 7:40 AM

The reason I keep reading someone blog is becasue they are real. I want to hear about real life. That's what I use mine for mostly and I jump all over the board, funny, sad, bitchy, angry, you name it. I can name a handful of blogs I won't read because they don't really talk about shit

Anonymous said...
May 5, 2010 at 7:56 AM

I blog exactly how I live... that's a scary thought in itself!!

I also blog knowing that my Granny reads it - she keeps me grounded in the knowledge that I can only say fuck when commenting on others posts!!


Mrsblogalot said...
May 5, 2010 at 8:22 AM

If I got more real on my blog I'd probably have to seek legal counseling.

Anonymous said...
May 5, 2010 at 8:32 AM

I write like I talk too. And I don't use a lot of colorful language. But that doesnt mean I wouldn't be devestated if you stopped using it! That's who you are and it is funny! Thank f-ing God!!! I love your funny blog because mine is not that funny. Reading your stories is like a mini vacation from the madness that is my household.

Personally, I hate blogs that only have a few sentences and then a link to the rest of the post. That always pisses me off. And I don't understand why some have sucha busy background that I cannot read the words! Other than that--I am good!

Thanks DM! You rock as always!!

adrienzgirl said...
May 5, 2010 at 9:31 AM

Um...yeah. It's all me, all the time. RAW as that might be. I make no apologies for the profanity in my blog. I um...err..well, I was raised better than that, but whatevs. I swear. Not going to post a bunch of Molly Homemaker posts pretending to be something I'm not.


I love your fucking blog by the way! :D

adrienzgirl said...
May 5, 2010 at 9:35 AM

Oh..and for the record things that turn me off?

The ones that were mentioned do bother me. Posts full of bad spelling irritate the living shit out of me as well. Um...if you can't spell, download Mozilla Firefox and use it as your web browser. It will underline the misspelled words for you in red.

And the other one? People who posts a fucking gazillion times a day. Knock it off already. Collect your thoughts. Put them in a cohesive post. If you come up with another thought. Schedule it to post in the fucking future.

That is all. I am off to get some caffeine.

Anonymous said...
May 5, 2010 at 11:04 AM

I say it fuck it....we blog because we like it, do what the hell ya want ;) people who are offended be damned ;)

June said...
May 5, 2010 at 11:04 AM

I would stop reading you if you were to worry about offending other bloggers with your cussing. I mean, it's your blog, write whatever the fuck you want. Ye' old "click off" is always available to those who are offended.

Is my blog the real me? Sunshine and flowers, clean and chipper? That's the good half... the other half rears it's ugly head every so often when I feel the need to vent or rant and drop Fuck in there just to shock my family readers. (Not like they haven't heard that roll off my tongue)

Cassandra said...
May 5, 2010 at 11:17 AM

I blog because a) I like to write, and b) if I didn't write down most of what I was thinking, the voices in my head would seriously drive me nuts.

I don't blog because I want fame, or hundreds of readers, or a book deal (that would seriously cut into my blogging time, which is currently completed during my "slacking off at work" time - I just don't see work letting me write a book on their time).

If I feel like using foul language, there's foul language. If my mind is especially chatty, it's a long post. If I forget that I started that sentence twenty minutes ago, fucking suck it up, it'll still be grammatical. Or come back in a few hours when I reread the post and realize how stupid it sounds.

If you (a generic you who might be anal enough to care if I drop the odd curse word) can't handle that, there are a million other bloggers. Go read them.

My Mercurial Nature said...
May 5, 2010 at 11:35 AM

My blog is absolutely the real me, though I keep a few details to myself (ya know, like my list of mental illnesses).

And my #1 blog turn-off is overt, pushy, and/or condescending religion and/or politics. Say it, don't spray it people.

Anonymous said...
May 5, 2010 at 11:47 AM

If you stopped cussing..it would be like--porn without sex!!

I agree w/ the blog music...not a fan at all!

Salt said...
May 5, 2010 at 12:29 PM

Um yeah you are too an expert at something. You are an expert at BEING HILARIOUS. Please don't ever change. You are one of my most favorites.

My blog for the most part is the real me, except that I curse WAY more in real life. I try to write with my "filtered" version of obscenities that I use around my brothers.

Faux Trixie said...
May 5, 2010 at 12:49 PM

Other than discussing work and my personal life, my blog IS me, in that it reflects my personality (or at least I hope it does): Snarky, somewhat witty, and generally irritated at most things.

I can't stand these overly romanticized blogs that post "pretty" pictures of things and then have, like, one sentence being like, "aren't these pictures pretty?" I also hate the girls who feel the need to devote an entire blog to how they dress. I mean, I don't need to see your outfit every fucking day.

Angelia said...
May 5, 2010 at 1:50 PM

Your cursing turns me on! It makes me feel like I can connect with you-like you are real and maybe if we were neighbors, we'd be friends. (I think that was one of those run on sentences...)

Anywho...I started blogging because I like to write and I wanted an outlet. It's nice to connect with other people who identify with all the jacked up crap that happens in my life.

I need to know that I'm not the only overweight, over-worked, softball mom on the planet-cause sometimes it feels that way.

I think I lost a follower with my posts on Gay Rights/Day of Silence but I don't care. I'm looking for like minded people to have good conversation with.

Anonymous said...
May 5, 2010 at 2:16 PM

Damn it. You lured me in here thinking this post was about sex!

I can not stand musical blogs. Straight up pisses me off. Why? I dont know.! LOL I guess it just annoys me.

My blog is a MUCH nicer version of me. Cause I can hit delete on my blog, where as in real life the stuff that pops out of my mouth is not deletable.

Logical Libby said...
May 5, 2010 at 3:31 PM

My blog is pretty much all me. I give my husband veto power. I shouldn't have though, because that would increase my stories by tenfold...

Brittney said...
May 5, 2010 at 3:45 PM

i love your posts and i dont care if people dont like my language.. its me.. its how I talk in real life im not gonna edit myself here.

The Only Girl said...
May 5, 2010 at 4:17 PM

Yeah - I think my blog is a perfect representation of me. Although I'll have to ask a few friends and family about that one.

Never change - we love you the way you are!

Danielle said...
May 5, 2010 at 4:29 PM

I agree with the music and the LOOOONGG posts. I find that I stop reading someone very quickly with either of those.
I also hate constant negativity.
If you stop cussing, I will stop reading you!! :) Seriously, you are one of my favorite reads because you are real and make me laugh!
I am too much of myself on my blog, which is why I bore the hell out of people. ;)

Mae Rae said...
May 5, 2010 at 5:04 PM

uummm, yuh! I blog because I blog. I comment because I like your blog. I don't care if you come to mine. that being said...i feel like we are in high school sometimes and as far as I was concerned back then (last week) I didn't like the girls who told me what kind of socks to wear. I wore MY socks.

Linda Medrano said...
May 5, 2010 at 5:45 PM

I find the music intrusive on all blogs and I have a hard time concentrating with it going. The other thing I dont' like is "your comment will be published after owner approval". WTF? I have no problem with language of any kind, unless it's used as a curse toward someone. I find religious blogs a little tiresome because I'm not a religious woman. I think I write for me, and love it if somebody else is listening. (I also get a little tired sometimes of all politics all the time, whether it be right or left of center.)

GunDiva said...
May 5, 2010 at 5:48 PM

My blog is part of me. I say part, because there are a lot of different parts of me. Is it my foul-mouthed-you-all-can-fuck-off-and-die part? Nope, because I know I have students who read my blog. I can't talk about the stupid fuckers who fail their classes because they can't be bothered to do their homework. Nor can I talk about the goddamn instructor who completely and totally fucked me over on my vacation by leaving me high and dry.

Nope, that part of me never hits my blog - only yours *wink* - thanks for being so cathartic.

GunDiva said...
May 5, 2010 at 5:53 PM

Linda, my blog must make you crazy, since I've enacted the comment moderation.

DM, I forgot - poor spelling, incorrect word usage, and posting a million times a day drive me ape shit. The only blog I've ever unfollowed was because of constant word mis-usage. For Christ's sake, if you're going to put your stuff out there, make sure you understand your yours and their/there/they'res.

Monique-aka-Surferwife23 said...
May 5, 2010 at 8:02 PM

I sprinkle my post with a few shit's, lots of damn's nad hell's and the occasional fucks.

I figure if someone is offended by it then they really have no business reading my blog, because yes, that's who I am.

And I love your blog. Cussing and all.

Jewels Diva® said...
May 5, 2010 at 9:32 PM

I don't have music on my blog and I keep my pc volume down all the time anyway so I wouldn't know if someone did have music.

I swear, ALOT, but not every post. And I occasionally have long posts because the subject depicts it.

And if you stop swearing because you're afraid of not getting followers, then you're not being yourself.

Be yourself and your followers will come. They will also go but then you get new ones, so it doesn't really matter.

alley said...
May 5, 2010 at 9:38 PM

Is my blog the real me? Yes, realer than the me you'd meet in real life.

But I don't blog for the audience, I blog for myself. I think I have three regular readers although the counts go up when i comment on other blogs.

MiMi said...
May 5, 2010 at 9:59 PM

I blog like I talk in real life, only cleaner. No cussing on my blog really, and no "like" "whatever" and all that stuff I put in. I like your blog, it gives me a laugh every day!

Daffy said...
May 5, 2010 at 10:27 PM

You totally fucking scared me you shithead! Fuck cussing! Seriously. Who needs it?

Wait! I do! You Do! WE ALL DO! Shiiiiit. Seriously though it makes me laugh, snicker, giggle, nod in agreement, helps me release steam, feel close to you....ummm what was the question again? Eh...shut the hell up I was too paying attention.

Yes. For the most part my blog is real. Sometimes I don't post things I want for racial reasons. And by racial reasons I mean because I'm white and I like my face where it is. Some of the shit I encounter daily would not go over well being regurgitated by moi.

Taylorvillegirl said...
May 5, 2010 at 11:24 PM

I'm kind of disappointed too. I totally thought you were going to talk about sex. Dammit.
I love your blog, especially your foul mouth. Don't ever stop doing what you're doing.
My blog is the real me. The only stuff I leave out is work stuff. That's just for confidentiality reasons. If I could find a way to legally tell my client stories, I would. The mentally ill are a constant source of material.

Tracie said...
May 6, 2010 at 9:50 AM

I'm the same person online as in real life. *shrugs* I don't know any other way to be.

Lora said...
May 6, 2010 at 10:55 AM

I swear more on my blog than I do in real life. And honestly? I don't want the kind of readers who would be offended by that because I wouldn't get along with them in real life either. Prudes? Who needs 'em?

But I'm generally the same. I don't get so political (I mean that about my ideals, not my voting preferences) in real life conversations.

I hate music on blogs, partial feeds, and lots of giveaways or reviews.

I love when people are just themselves and they share a bit of their soul online.
Life is life is life and we all do the same crap. I don't want to hear about the small details or how cute people's kids are (they aren't, generally) I want to know about the person behind the mommy/career/student/whatever

Mae Rae said...
May 6, 2010 at 12:48 PM

Just so that you know. I never post two comments on the same post unless I have something really important to say. Well today, I do. I have an award for you over at my place.

Linda Medrano said...
May 6, 2010 at 2:56 PM

I don't stop reading a blog if there's comment moderation. I just don't like it. But then I really don't like the word identification stuff either. I still read the blogs because my homey's rock! I wouldn't miss out on what any of you have to say!

Maurice said...
May 7, 2010 at 5:58 PM

Music will make me leave quicker than anything.

My blog is the real me. Though a lot of it is stuff I can't say work (because I'm the only Democrat there) or is about the stupid stuff I did when I was younger that I don't dare talk about in front of my kids (as they don't need the ideas.)

Crazy Brunette said...
May 7, 2010 at 7:26 PM

Awwww shit! I'm fuuuucked.

A lot of people have asked me if I'm scared that my vulgar, nasty as shit posts and mouth will scare people away...

Ha! Like I give a fuck! My take on the situation is, if you don't like my goddamn blog then don't fucking read it.

gayle said...
May 7, 2010 at 11:41 PM

I am pretty much me on my blog except in real life I use words that I can't use on my blog (because of certain relatives that would have a heart attack & I can't have that).

Menopausal New Mom said...
May 8, 2010 at 7:04 PM

I like to think that my blog is the real me and not the typical wife that others would expect me to be.

As far as what turns me off, definitely hating the music on blogs, especially late at night when I'm the only one up and have about 20 minutes to blog surf before I sneak up to go to bed. Then the blare of some music that I hate and I think that the entire household is awake now and will start bitching at me.

I did a post on this topic, what makes you stop following? and I had more responses to it than to any other post I've done. Pretty hot topic.

My biggest turnoff is reading that some blogger feels complelled to include their religion all over their blog. That will make me hit the back button faster than any blaring music.

I LOVE the swearing and I know you can't stop :)

I sometimes swear, sometimes not I guess it just depends on the topic. But on Wednesday's post, I'm gonna use the word FUCK!

Mrsblogalot said...
May 8, 2010 at 10:07 PM

Came back to wish you a Happy Mother's Day! xoxoM

Lisa said...
May 9, 2010 at 12:48 PM

I HATE music on blogs and my mom was an "English Teacher" so I try to use me some really good grammar (LOL)....I think I don't have too much bling. I know my posts can be long...but I talk, ALOT, in real life. It's who I am. But this bullshit about the fucking bad language....they can kiss my ass and not read. I have to watch my P's and Q's all the damn day at work with the teens I teach and TRY to watch the lanuguage in front of my own Macs. It has to come out somewhere. That would be MY blog. :) The End.

PS You can drop all the f-bombs you want...I will keep coming back and adoring you with doe-eyed amazement! :)

Linda Medrano said...
May 9, 2010 at 5:45 PM

Got something for you on my site! Come on over!

Sarah With Scissors said...
May 9, 2010 at 8:18 PM

Ah, if we spent our entire lives trying to make people like us we'd all be the most damn miserable folks everywhere. If you can just be yourself it's an awful easy way to surround yourself with people that actually like you and not narcissistic asses that force ya to walk on egg shells.

But then again, that's from an overly opinionated ass hat like myself who has the blog so I don't have to tiptoe around the world.

plus, i loves the peeps that my blog drags in so i ain't worrying about the ones it offends with my cussing

Aimee said...
May 9, 2010 at 11:00 PM

As far as I'm concerned, if my posts offend you, then you aren't my intended audience anyway. My blog is absolutely the real me...well, to a degree. There are some thoughts and feelings that I have typed out and then erased because my blog address is linked on my facebook page, and I have TONS of family on facebook...so I do leave out the most *inflammatory* of my opinions and thoughts, but I don't constrain my sailor mouth to any extent whatsoever. I definitely try to cut back on some of the negativity, especially when I'm depressed.

The Queen said...
May 9, 2010 at 11:24 PM

Fuckdittidydamn.. I didn't know I was suppose to have a targeted reader.. shitpisshelldamn,,, I was told never to aim unless you intend to hit your target..

No target.. no chance of a misfired bullet..and a pregnancy at my age..

No targeted audience at my place.. just drinks.. foul language.. and a few giggles..

Erin said...
May 10, 2010 at 1:02 PM

My blog is mostly the real me, but in real life I curse more. I try to tone it down b/c I have an audience that includes people who might be a bit offended. In real life I also complain about my in-laws quite a bit. But can't do that on my blog. Sads.

I agree with you on the music and long posts....and too much bling. I like to keep my page pretty simple/quiet and I don't "do" buttons. TOo much on the sidebar is distracting!

Homesick Cajun said...
May 12, 2010 at 9:19 PM

My blog is totally me, thought I do cuss more IRL. I don't know why I don't cuss as much in my blog...I just don't! Good question though!

Anastasia said...
June 3, 2010 at 5:00 PM

I think that if people find your blog offensive then they are uptight. I mean really if you don't like it don't read it. You aren't going to filter yourself for others and that says something about your integrity. Fuck em

Queen of Feisty said...
June 8, 2010 at 1:35 AM

Feisty... hmmm... real? Sure as shit I am.

Sure I go by secret names, but some douche bag was stalking me not in a good way, so I went all incogneto on blogville.

But it's still me. Every shitin' swear word. Speaking of swear words.

Not kidding when I tell you this, you had made up a word, and usually I get them right away, or know them, or use them daily. But the "Fuckedupedness" was awesome. you had me sitting at my desk s.l.o.w.l.y spelling it out.

Love it. And my pet peve on blogs? The first thing I see is religion. I almost bolt at the sign of someone with their love of god plastered in their headder.

That is why I don't diguss religion, or politics on my blog!

Geez I miss you. I'm rambling here like I'm holding a fucking conversation.