Girl Meets Boy

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As many of you know, since my break up in June, I have been hell bent on having fun and living life to the fullest. Dating, dancing and drinking with every man that peaks my interest, committing to none of them. Of course it’s all been done in the most responsible manner possible (she says gleefully, tossing her hair over her shoulder).

A “relationship” a “fixation” a “thing” was at the very bottom of the to do list. I was not looking for anything beyond casual and actually ran from it with a couple of dates. Live for the moment had become my new modus operandi. The energy and dedication required to make a relationship work wasn’t something I wanted to commit to.

And then he came along, tipping my world on its’ axis.

I have been using an online dating site for a few months. I have had a few great conversations, a couple of interesting dates, nothing serious. Almost five weeks ago (I can’t believe it’s only been five weeks) I was out with a friend at a dance club. We were up on the dance floor shaking what our mammas gave us when I spot a really tall guy standing by the bar. His height caught my eye and when he turned around his eyes shone from across the room. I’m not being a drama bitch here people, the blueness of his eyes could literally be seen across a dark, crowded bar. I recognized his face from a profile on the dating site (small community) as someone that I had traded casual messages with. So at one point during the evening as I’m walking down to the bar, I met him on the stairs. Never being one to let an opportunity pass, I turn my head; look him directly in the eye and smile. He hesitantly smiled back and kept walking. Ok, I thought, not interested. No big deal. Not every guy is going to fall at my feet in a trembling pile of lust, right?

Anyway, the night proceeded. I drank too much, was kissed by a girl on the dance floor while her husband stood by laughing and fun was had by all. In my drunken wisdom, when I got home that evening I sent him a message, “Hey, you wouldn’t have been at the (insert bar name) tonight, tall guy, black leather jacket?”

He replied the following morning: Yes, I was. I am guessing you were there as well. Did you enjoy the band? Have fun?

Me: You have a great smile. lol Yes, we passed right by each other and smiled.

We proceeded to talk about music, favorite foods, pastimes, kids. I asked him if he remembered me, described what I was wearing and he responded:

I think I actually remember the exchanged smile. lol --- Its not often I make eye contact in a bar, but you looked right at me! What could I do?

Yeah, that’s me, always the brazen one.

He asked if I was sorry I had smiled at him. I replied that I wasn’t, not at all. His bashfulness intrigued me. It was contradictory to his physical appearance – tall, rugged, cowboy boots, leather jacket. The email messages turned into an instant messaging session that lasted about three hours. Around 5:30 he asked me to have dinner with him. He quickly decided on where to meet (loved the take charge attitude) and a time. I agreed, expecting to spend an amusing evening with a cute guy, have a few laughs and a story to tell the girls the next day.

I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Stay tuned for part II. Ohhh c’ don’t think I’m actually going to give it to you all in one dose do you?


Nessa Roo said...
November 19, 2010 at 3:53 PM


Terry said...
November 19, 2010 at 3:55 PM

OMG! You've got to be kidding me!! I wanna know how it went...and I wanna know now!! I love online dating stories! I had a few, then settled with the least threatening one :) Actually married him! Yikes! He's a nutcase, but I love him anyway. Love him enough to let him post on my blog I insane, or what??? I'll be back for part 2...damn you.

Anonymous said...
November 19, 2010 at 4:04 PM

Fuck yeah! Way to do it, brazen f'n rocks. Wallflowers never get noticed. Can't wait to hear the rest!

Nancy Deprez said...
November 19, 2010 at 4:05 PM

OMG so exciting!!!! Love your attitude. It's when we are out to just have fun that we meet the guy of our dreams.... letting go of the outcome and all that jazz.

You're a great writer!

Sandra said...
November 19, 2010 at 4:11 PM

Ah now this is something worth waiting for.... I am looking forward to part II .....

GunDiva said...
November 19, 2010 at 10:25 PM

No pressure or anything, but RCC and I were engaged about 12 weeks after we met in real life. Seems to me like you've got just a few weeks to go...

Maggie said...
November 20, 2010 at 5:40 AM

GAH!! That's not nice!! *sigh*

Aunt Juicebox said...
November 20, 2010 at 10:28 AM

I think I know part of the answer - it went VERY well. LOL Otherwise we'd be hearing a different beginning, like his shit-brown eyes, his Lurch-like height, etc. ;)

June said...
November 21, 2010 at 12:56 PM

It's been way too long since I have visited your blog - Sorry and shame on me.

Now tell us the rest of the story damn it!

Logical Libby said...
November 21, 2010 at 6:49 PM

More! More! More! Don't be such a tease!

Mae Rae said...
November 22, 2010 at 10:23 AM

crap! i hate when you do that...i am on the edge of my seat.

Daffy said...
November 22, 2010 at 8:23 PM

Of course I'm a little late to the party but I know what happens. *claps hands*

Yankee Girl said...
November 30, 2010 at 4:38 PM

Holy BALLS bitch! I cannot believe you didn't finish!!!!!

I am on the edge of my seat over here!!!!